Hello, dear readers. In our fast-paced age, when it is important to do a lot during the day, most parents feel guilty that they do not have time to spend more time with their children.
In this article we will talk about parents and children, what joint activities bring psychologically closer together, what kind of relationships exist between close people in the family and how you can organize a family vacation for the benefit of everyone!
Of course, spending time together is very important and necessary for a harmonious and warm relationship between parents and children. It is necessary to understand that only with sensitive and attentive interaction with a child does he develop trust in the world around him and a sense of security.
Recommendations for the child’s parents, family relationships
Very often you can observe a picture when parents are physically close to their child, but not psychologically. With a lack of emotional contact, younger children begin to attract the attention of their parents with bad behavior: hysterics, screaming, disobedience, breaking toys, and older children simply stop communicating with their parents, snap back, are insolent, and do not obey.
What to do in such a situation? Should I quit my job or worry less about everyday problems? Of course, you shouldn’t go to extremes; quitting your job or depriving yourself of your personal life is unconstructive.
And here the main motto for parents can be the phrase: “The main thing is not the quantity, but the quality of the time spent with the child.” That is, let it be only 1-2 hours a day, but as interesting and useful as possible for the child and you. And then you won’t have to feel guilty about the lack of time for your beloved children.
If the child is still small (from 0 to 8 years old), then he needs to be often stroked on the head, hugged or even carried, played with his favorite games and told fairy tales. And older children (from 9 to 17 years old) need daily communication, attentive attitude of parents to the events taking place in their lives, they need joint activities that will develop them and prepare them for a future independent life.
Now let's look at what types of relationships there are in a family and what type you consider yourself to be. Just be honest with yourself, because it depends on how ready you are to change and create a harmonious and viable family where both children and parents are happy:
- Traditional and harmonious family. This is a relationship that is built on love and trust in each other. All vital issues are resolved by mutual agreement. The husband is the head of the family and the wife respects his opinion. The basis of such a family is considered to be stability and a long life together. Children are born in love and harmony, they are long-awaited and treated with respect.
Unfortunately, the traditional family in its pure form has been quite rare lately. Because only in a harmonious family do children adopt positive experiences and subsequently transfer them to their family.
- A family where the spouses are like brother and sister. From the outside it seems that this is a happy family, the parents communicate well with each other, know how to achieve common goals, and they love and value their children here. But unfortunately, there is no passion between husband and wife, no mutual attraction, and therefore no constant sex.
This only means that the family will live only until one of the partners finds a more attractive person who arouses a lot of sexually positive emotions in him.
- Scandalous family. Each of the partners in such a family considers himself unique and inimitable and is not going to take into account the opinion of his chosen one. As a rule, these are selfish and spoiled people who do not know how to listen and give in even to their loved one. Here all family problems are solved by swearing and scandals.
Children in such a family are loved and desired, but they are forced to constantly observe parental squabbles, which does not have a very good effect on their psycho-emotional development. In adulthood, it will be very difficult for such children to create their own happy family, since they did not see the right example before their eyes.
- A divided family. In such a family, both children and parents are busy with their favorite things. There is no unity and joint common affairs here, everyone is on their own. Partners have little interest in each other’s lives and interests. This often happens when a husband is building a career, and the wife may be running a business or simply trying to reveal her talents.
Children in such families are emotionally cold and indifferent to the events happening around them. Often in a divided family there are difficult teenagers who are deprived of warm relationships with their parents. And when children grow up and leave the family into adulthood, the spouses, as a rule, get divorced, since nothing connects them anymore.
- A family resembling a parent-child relationship. Here one of the spouses takes a dominant position, manages and decides all the main everyday matters. And the second spouse takes the position of a “child” or subordinate. Such are families where there is a large age difference between spouses, for example, 10, 20 or more years. There are often situations when a spouse-parent becomes a tyrant and then things become very unpleasant for his household.
Children in such a family are also completely subordinate to the laws and rules of the dominant spouse and do not dare to disobey their parent. Relationships here can last quite a long time and fall apart only when the suppressed spouse gets tired of playing the role of a “child”, he overcomes his infantilism and matures.
- Dysfunctional family. These are relationships in which one of the spouses is addicted to alcohol, drugs, or is generally a gambling addict. All other family members, including children, are codependent, because, to the detriment of their well-being, they try to pull their loved one out of the hole in which he finds himself.
Over time, when the patience of the codependent spouse runs out, such a family simply falls apart. Or the dependent spouse finds good reasons and stops leading an antisocial lifestyle, but this is extremely rare!
In the pure version, the types of relationships described above in the family are rare; families with mixed variants are more common. However, if you recognize your family in one of the types and you have a desire to create a harmonious and warm relationship, then you can always turn to a competent specialist.
As they say, the one who walks can master the road! And your children copy 80% of their parents’ behavior and in the future will create families similar to yours. Therefore, do your best to create comfort, warmth and love in your family!
Collaborative activities between teachers and children
Raisa Mikhailovna Fedorenko
Collaborative activities between teachers and children
(work experience of teachers of MBDOU d/s “Smile”
city of Kogalym)
The joint activity of adults and children is the main model for organizing the educational process of preschool children; activities of two or more participants in the educational process (adults and students)
in solving educational problems in the same space and at the same time, it is distinguished by the presence of a partner
(equal)
position of an adult and a partner form of organization (possible free placement, movement and communication in the process of educational
activities ).
FORMS OF WORK WITH PUPILS
individual
subgroup
frontal
TYPES OF JOINT ACTIVITIES
• Direct educational activities carried out in the course of joint activities between adults and children .
• Joint activities between adults and children , carried out during routine moments and aimed at solving educational problems.
TYPES OF JOINT ACTIVITY
gaming
communicative
motor
educational and research
productive
The development pattern of any type of activity is as follows : the activity is first carried out in joint activities with adults , then in joint activities with peers and , finally, becomes an independent activity of a preschool child .
Characteristics of joint partnership activities between an adult and children :
– voluntary participation of children in activities (without psychological and disciplinary coercion)
;
– open time period (everyone works at their own pace)
;
– free communication and movement of children;
– pedagogical support.
Taking into account the above-mentioned essential features, the organization of joint activities should extend both to ongoing regime moments and to all direct educational activities .
To achieve discipline, acting within the framework of joint activities, the teacher will have to do not with the formal authority of an adult, but through the creation of an entire system of interests, including through the choice of topics of the educational process that are interesting and meaningful for the child.
Let's give an example of organizing joint activities in a preschool educational institution .
“Evening of mysteries”
(senior preschool age)
.
The teacher asks the children riddles about fairy-tale characters. After each correct guess, a picture depicting this hero is attached to the easel, and a game-conversation “Tell about the fairy-tale hero”
(
"Who is it?"
,
"What is he doing?"
).
Next, the children make simple crafts based on the “origami”
or draw a portrait of a fairy-tale hero.
A quiz is being held “Visiting a fairy tale”
(questions are asked: “Why didn’t the bear hibernate in the fairy tale
“Mitten
?”, etc.) Certain tasks require you to independently analyze the situation and comment on the result.
When planning joint activities , it is necessary to determine its structure. For example, for older preschoolers the structure will be like this:
1. Statement of by the teacher and its acceptance by all participants.
2. Analysis of the problem; children propose and select ways to solve the problem.
3. Discussion and evaluation of the results of joint activities .
Planning of joint and independent activities is carried out
The process of joint activity includes play (problem-based, cognitive or other)
situation or task.
Joint activities are planned and monitored in the following forms:
• Target walk;
• Observation;
• Examination;
• Experimentation;
• Creative activity .
Currently, it is relevant to implement various projects in the joint activities of children , teachers and parents, in which parents should be active participants in the educational process, and not just outside observers.
So, the joint activity of a teacher and children is one of the promising forms of developmental education. Educational situations of joint interaction between a teacher and children become situations of co-development and co-realization of an adult and a child in the educational space of a kindergarten.
Joint activities of parents and children
To effectively build warm and friendly relationships between parents and children, it is necessary to devote more time to joint activities. We will talk about some types of such activities below:
- Involving children in household chores. A child can be motivated by the fact that before you play some game with him or go somewhere, you must first do good deeds for the home and family: clean the apartment, cook dinner together, go grocery shopping, clean out the garage with your father etc.
Moreover, these tasks can be turned into an exciting game so that children are not so bored. This way, you will be close to your children and instill in them positive character traits: determination, hard work, responsiveness, accuracy.
- Joint games between parents and children. It is absolutely known that all children love to play, and at any age, even at 16–17 years old. Only joint family games need to be selected according to the age of the child.
If in preschool and primary school age these can be games - “Hide and Seek”, “Higher than your feet off the ground”, “Tag”, role-playing games with your favorite characters, then at an older age you can play financial or intellectual board games with children, for example, “Monopoly”, “Chess”, “Field of Miracles”, “Wordmaker”, joint collection of Lego constructors, etc.
- Family reading books together. Children of any age love to hear exciting adventure stories or fairy tales read to them. The most important thing is to talk to your child after reading about what he understood from the plot of the book, why the hero acted this way and not otherwise.
And it is best to read high-quality moral literature to children (not comics or horror films) in order to instill in them good literary taste. For example, works for children by Nekrasov, Ushinsky, Tolstoy, Sukhomlinsky, Chekhov, Charushin, Zhitkov, Prishvin and many others.
- Watching meaningful films and family cartoons together. Good meaningful films make you think about some life situation and provide the basis for parents and children to jointly discuss the plot of the film. Children, thus, learn to assess the situation correctly and parental opinion will help them form positive personal qualities of character.
- Communication, communication, communication. It is very important for children to express what happened to them during the day, to talk about their problems and victories. It is important for them to know that their parents are not indifferent to their lives and that mom and dad are always there to help and support them at the right time.
Parents need to find at least 15-20 minutes for each child, for an individual conversation with each of them, so that the son or daughter can completely trust and open up to their beloved dad or mom. In this case, parents and children will have a very deep and trusting relationship for many, many years.
- Collaborative creativity. Children love to create something with their own hands together with their parents. If a mother, for example, is interested in knitting, embroidery, collecting, and scrapbooking, then why not take up this type of activity together with her daughter.
And a father, for example, can work together with his son on repairing some things or creating new unique objects from wood, metal or paper. Such creative activity will not only bring parents and children together emotionally, but will also teach the younger generation creativity, as well as the ability to do something useful and necessary with their own hands.
- Teaching children essential life skills. A wonderful way for parents and children to spend time together can be teaching their offspring some kind of activity. This will help children acquire vital skills and abilities, and will give parents the opportunity to spend quality time with their child.
Subsequently, your son or daughter will proudly say: “My wonderful father taught me this!” or “My mother can do this perfectly, she taught me too!” And you can teach children very, very many things, for example, swimming, cycling or rollerblading, delicious cooking or sewing, ironing their clothes and washing their underwear, playing the guitar or piano.
All this, one way or another, will help the child become more successful in the future and his survival rate will be much higher than his peers. As you can see, there are a great many options for spending time together between children and parents, you just need to show your imagination and set aside a little time.
And then during your children’s adolescence and adolescence, you will not have any conflicts or misunderstandings with them! And as adults, your children will strive to visit you more often to chat and talk about painful things.
Joint activities of children and parents as a means of developing children’s creative activity
Modern education is currently aimed at the comprehensive development of the child’s personality. The basis of this development is creative activity, therefore the formation of creative activity of students is one of the pressing problems of the younger generation.
What is creative activity? Creative activity is the ability of an individual to proactively and independently find “search zones,” set tasks, highlight the principles underlying certain structures, phenomena, actions, and transfer knowledge, skills and abilities from one area to another.
I see the importance of the formation of creative activity, first of all, in the fact that in the process of creative activity, students master heuristic techniques for acquiring knowledge, cultivate a love for serious, thoughtful work, a constant desire for self-education, self-improvement, and perseverance in achieving their goals.
Without the manifestation of creative activity, a student’s cognitive abilities cannot successfully develop in mastering knowledge in all school subjects.
The student’s creative activity occupies a central place in the formation of a strong-willed, focused, comprehensively developed personality.
The main assistants to teachers in the development of children's creative activity are parents! In my opinion, it is possible to develop the creative activity of children only through picking up and directing the child’s initiatives in joint activities with their parents into the mainstream of productive activity.
This activity acts as a means of motivating personal development, helps active knowledge of the world and creativity.
Joint creativity between children and parents forms good trusting relationships between them, has a positive impact on the child’s development and teaches him to cooperate. The creative process stimulates the all-round development of the child. Motor skills are improved, imagination is formed, and creative potential is revealed. In addition, joint creative activity is an interesting and exciting pastime. Joint creativity makes up for the lack of parental attention, because parents usually spend the whole day at work, it relieves the pressure of parental authority, allows the child to express himself and feel his importance. The joint creativity of children and parents evokes a lot of positive emotions and creates a particularly warm atmosphere both in the family and at school. I will give several effective and interesting forms of joint activity between children and parents, which I use in my teaching activities.
1. Project method.
Working on a project enriches all participants in the process and creates a positive emotional atmosphere. Establishing trusting relationships with parents smoothly leads to joint research and formation of a harmoniously developed personality of the child, increasing the legal and psychological-pedagogical culture of parents, creating a single educational space for the student in the family and school, developing coordinated and pedagogically appropriate requirements for the child, taking into account his originality, talent, individual pace of advancement, age characteristics. Here are the themes of the projects that were implemented in my practice: “I give beautiful things to people”, “What I want to see my city”, “Modern princes and princesses”, “What I want to see as a modern teacher”, “How to live today in order to have a chance see tomorrow”, “What is happiness?”
2. Organization of children's and adult parties.
Children's birthdays, Christmas holidays, Children's Day, Holiday of Knowledge, New Year's Carnival, lessons - surprises and other joint holidays - this is an opportunity to show creativity, invention and imagination.
The holiday atmosphere brings adults and children together in preparing the environment, writing a script, creating a holiday menu, and making prizes. Each family member prepares competitions, costumes, games, and surprises.
3. Joint child-parent creativity.
Making a collage from natural materials, various crafts, publishing a family or class wall newspaper, making greeting cards, decorations for holidays, preparing sweet treats for birthdays and other holidays in the classroom - these are just some of the types of work that can be done together with parents at home, so in the classroom.
The school can organize exhibitions of joint works of children and parents of various thematic areas. The joint creativity of children and parents creates a lot of positive emotions and a warm atmosphere in the children's team. The creative process stimulates the all-round development of the child. Motor skills are improved, imagination is formed, and creative potential is revealed. This form of parent-child interaction also contributes to the child’s independence and self-expression. It has become a tradition at our school to hold autumn and Christmas fairs, where children, together with their parents, can demonstrate their talents and abilities.
4. Reading books.
A “Reading Hour” is organized with books of the child’s choice. At such moments, along with the development of the cognitive sphere, the child develops moral and personal qualities without direct moral teaching.
5. Joint educational games for children and adults.
Any types of board games such as: lotto, dominoes; printed board games; verbal-logical and others, strengthen the close interaction between children and parents. Play is the most enjoyable activity for a child, within which he develops and is educated. During play with a child, an adult finds himself in a situation “on equal terms.” And when the child explains the course and rules of the game, the adult falls into the role of “learner.” In joint play activities, the formation of moral and volitional qualities of the child’s personality occurs.
V.A. Sukhomlinsky believed that the game is a huge bright window through which a life-giving stream of ideas and concepts about the surrounding world flows into the child’s spiritual world. He compared the game to a spark that ignites the flame of inquisitiveness and curiosity in a child. I completely agree with this.
6. Organization of children's and adult theatrical performances.
Children are fans of dressing up and transforming using the wardrobe of adults. Of course, at such moments the child needs spectators, who become parents. In such activities, children realize themselves in a liberated form, practicing and acquiring new forms of verbal and non-verbal communication. But parents can be not only grateful spectators, but also participants in theatrical performances together with their children. Mini-performances, in which children and parents are actors, will decorate any holiday at school.
7. Family excursions and travel.
Such trips can be organized to a park, a forest, or a museum. It could be just a walk around the city. The parent acts as the leader, and the child is involved in planning the excursion route: where they will go, what food and toys they will take. During the excursion, the adult encourages the child to be active in learning about the world around him. Family excursions can be organized for the whole class or in small groups. In my class, as part of the project “Great People of Russia”, together with my parents, excursions were organized to the State Lermontov Museum-Reserve “Tarkhany”, the hero city of Volgograd.
8. Visiting theaters and cinemas.
At the initial stage, the initiator of such visits is the parents, introducing the child to the world of beauty. Next, the children themselves choose the place and topics of viewing.
9. Maintaining family albums, filling out the “Album of Discoveries”, “Album of Achievements”.
This is an interesting, exciting activity between parents and a child, through which adults become clearer and closer to their children, and children become closer to adults, which helps strengthen family relationships. Children get to know themselves, the world around them, and other people. You can organize an exhibition of such albums in the classroom, celebrations of achievements “My Discoveries”.
Joint creativity makes up for the lack of parental attention, because parents usually spend the whole day at work, it relieves the pressure of parental authority, allows the child to express himself and feel his importance.
No matter how good the teachers who work with children are, no one can replace parental attention and care for children. In modern conditions at school it is so difficult to do without the support of parents, without their participation in the life of the class. Only through joint efforts can we raise a person who has a thirst for knowledge, knows how to enjoy life and win!
Why is family vacation so important?
A family vacation is a pastime when no one is in a hurry and you can calmly enjoy the company of your loved ones. During a family vacation, psychological rapprochement occurs between spouses, as well as parents and children.
You can chat with loved ones on non-standard or intimate topics, and you can get to know each other’s interests better. It is rest, and not joint work, that helps you look at your household from a different angle and feel immensely happy and needed.
How and where a joint family vacation will be organized depends on the culture and education of the parents. It's great if parents have hobbies that their children can readily share. For example, fishing or tourist travel. Happy memories of family holidays remain in the memory of children for life and subsequently form their values, passed on from generation to generation.
For me, as a mother of many children, communication with all 3 children separately is always in the first place.
And even if I have little free time and I’m falling off my feet from fatigue, I still find the opportunity to devote at least 10-15 minutes every day to an attentive conversation with each of my children. After all, each of my sons is a whole world, a universe, with its own positive and negative sides. And I love them very much free of charge, just as they are, which is what I wish for you in relation to your children!
