Development of a parent meeting “Parental love and education. Me and my child"
2.Get into a group, discuss and choose 5 common mistakes in parenting. Write them down on a piece of paper. Discuss who will present your work to everyone now. You have 10 minutes. After time has passed, someone from the group reports on the work, hanging a poster on the board. After information from all groups, common errors are highlighted.
3. Let’s choose common mistakes that are common to parents (write these mistakes on the board).
4. In fact, teachers identify 10 mistakes in education that everyone has made at one time or another. Let's compare our findings with those of experts.
1. Promise not to love again. "If you don't be what I want, I'll
I won't love you anymore"
2. Indifference. "Do what you want, I don't care"
3. Too much strictness. "You must do what I told you,
because I’m the boss in the house.”
4.Children need to be pampered. “I guess I’ll do it myself. to my
The baby can’t do it yet.”
5.Imposed role. "My child is my best friend"
6.More money is better “We are too tight on funds, so
upbringing. we can’t even afford to pamper ourselves
child, he constantly has to do everything
refuse. In short, let us have more
money, we would be better parents."
7.Napoleonic plans. “My child will study music
(tennis, painting), I won't let him
miss your chance."
8. Too little affection. “Kisses and all kinds of tenderness are not so
important for the child."
9.Your mood. “Is this possible or not? It depends on your
mood."
10.Too little
time for education “Unfortunately, I don’t have time at all
child. for you".
4. Analysis of forms of manifestation of love for a child.
Now I will ask everyone to sit in a circle again.
It would be wrong to leave everything as it is. We figured out our mistakes. Unfortunately, all parents commit them from time to time. But it’s always better to learn from other people’s mistakes, isn’t it? Let's look at our advantages in education and derive a formula for success. I invite you to gather again in groups at the tables and do the exercise. It is called “in the rays of the parental sun.”
1. Each of you, please draw a circle and write a name on it. Now draw rays from this symbol one by one and sign each of them, answering the question “How do I warm my child, like the sun warms the earth?” Please work, you have three minutes!
2. Discuss your merits in a group, compare, find commonalities and draw a sun for the group, writing out all your virtues on its rays.
3. A sun is drawn on the board. It is you who warm your child with your warmth. What are your rays called? The first group starts. She writes down 5 qualities, the next one continues, writing out the other 5, and so on until all your manifestations of love for your child are written on the board. C'mon, it won't happen again!
Parents' meeting on the topic - education by love.
Meeting topic
"Education by Love"
Goals
:
1. Identify the features of the relationship between children and parents;
2. Help parents analyze their parental behavior, focus on the positive aspects of raising a child, forms of showing love for him;
3. Promote the harmonization of child-parent relationships.
Tasks:
- Consider the positive and negative aspects of the educational influence of parents on the child.
- Bring to the consciousness of parents the need to show their unconditional parental love.
- Expand parents’ understanding of the importance of the emotional component of child-parent relationships.
- Increase parental competence in matters of education and awareness of emotional influences on the part of adults.
- To awaken among parents, as educators, interest in the process of self-education in the field of pedagogical knowledge.
- Improve the relationship between parents and teachers, expand the scope of their joint activities.
Equipment:
multi-projector for demonstrating presentations, screen;
on the tables
: candle, under the candle a heart-children's craft, matches.
Progress of the meeting
(slide 1)
The theme of our meeting is education by love. Today I have set a goal for myself - to introduce you to parental love, to parenting with love. First of all, I would like to give you a seed. Keep it with you until the end of our meeting. And I would like to suggest that before the meeting begins, light the candles that are on your tables. And while you are lighting them, I want to tell you a parable.
(slide 2)
Parable
Somewhere in the starry infinite space of the universe there lived a soul. She was cheerful and carefree, joyful and happy. She enjoyed her freedom. I admired the shine of the stars and listened to their cheerful chirping. She loved to dangle her legs on the moon, saw a parade of planets, and met other stars. One day she was flying over the earth and was attracted by the faint glow of fire. She flew closer and saw a burning candle and hands folded in silent prayer. And then it dawned on her - the light was burning for her! They are waiting for her there on Earth. And the soul flew to God. And she said: “Lord! I saw fire in the window. I think they are waiting there and calling me.”
The Lord agreed: “Fly. This fire has chosen you!” and let go of my soul. At this very time, life began on Earth. The soul has found a body. She joyfully entered this world. A long-awaited child appeared in the family. God has given us a priceless gift, so take care of your beloved sun!
(slide 3.4)
Our sun shone on the horizon of our lives. But only more and more often did it begin to encounter various emotions on its life path, which often come from us, from our parents. On its clear rays lay horror, rudeness, hatred, indifference, despondency, failure, sadness, mistrust.
And our sun turned gray, it bent under the weight of unbearable experiences. It has lost its shine, lost its true face. It is in our power to make the sun shine again. What do you think needs to be done for this? Replace these negative emotions with the exact opposite. And the most important thing that will save us is LOVE.
(slide 5)
What is love?
WHAT IS LOVE? IMPOSSIBLE TO DESCRIBE. WHAT IS LOVE? IT'S SIMPLE AND COMPLEX. WHAT IS LOVE? I CAN'T EXPLAIN. TO UNDERSTAND THIS YOU JUST NEED TO LOVE.
What is love, I want to ask you, It’s just an incomprehensible feeling. No, I’m ready to argue with you that love is a great art. Its essence lies in the fact that it is, of course, a feeling. A feeling of joy, happiness, but also then, There may be suffering, but the feeling
If anyone else can object to me, That love is just an ordinary feeling. I can repeat to you once again, Love is not a toy, it is art.
(slide 6)
Psychologists have long proven that the experience a child gains in relationships with his parents is fundamental for his entire subsequent life. It is vital for a child to be loved by his parents. Without physical food, he is not able to survive; without love and acceptance, he will not be able to become a full-fledged person. Parents are responsible for the experience that the child will receive in the family. This is why parental love is a very significant value for both parents and children. But precisely because it is so important, it is very difficult to come to terms with its absence or lack, both for children and parents. This can lead to serious distortions: parents pass off aggression towards their own children as love, and children take this substitution at face value, as if this is genuine parental love, and then transfer this experience into their lives.
(slide 7)
Effective love (liking, respect, intimacy). The formula for family education is this: I want my child to be happy, and I will help him in this. Effective love includes active attention to the interests of the child, acceptance of him as an independent person, and a warm emotional attitude.
If a child feels love, kindness, acceptance, respect, interest in him, then he positively remembers what happens and is said around him, he is formed as a person with an excess of mental strength.
(slide 8,9)
“Kisses and all kinds of tenderness are not so important for a child”
The opinion of psychologists.
Children of any age crave affection; it helps them feel loved and gives them confidence in their abilities. But remember, the desire to caress should still, in most cases, come from the child himself. Don't actively impose your love on your children - this can push them away.
(slide 10)
Detached love (sympathy, respect, but a large distance in communication). Education is carried out according to the formula: look what a wonderful child I have, it’s a pity that I have so little time to communicate with him. Parents highly value the child, especially his successes or abilities, but this is combined with ignorance of his mental world, with the inability to help with his problems. Every child from a very early age needs the emotional participation of an adult, empathy for their problems and difficulties. He expects this participation primarily from his parents, counting on their support, understanding and love.
(slide 11)
There is too little time left to raise a child.
“Unfortunately, I don’t have any time for you.”
The opinion of psychologists. Adults often forget a simple truth - if you have already given birth to a child, you must find time for him. A child who constantly hears that an adult constantly has no time for him will look for kindred spirits among strangers. Even if your day is scheduled minute by minute, find half an hour in the evening (in this matter, quality is more important than quantity) to sit by the child’s bed, talk to him, ask him about his day, read a book, despite the child’s age, this is necessary.
(slide 12)
Effective pity (sympathy, intimacy, but lack of respect). The formula is this: although my child is not smart and developed enough, I still love him. This style is characterized by the recognition of real (and often imaginary) deviations in the mental or physical development of the child, as a result of which parents begin to be overly protective, not believing in his abilities and capabilities, not trusting the child.
(slide 13)
“I guess I'll do it myself. My child is not able to do this yet.”
The opinion of psychologists. Spoiled children often have a hard time in life. You cannot keep your only child under the hood of parental love - this can lead to many problems in the future. If parents remove every pebble from the baby’s path, then this does not make the child feel happier. On the contrary, he feels helpless and alone. “Try to do it yourself, and if it doesn’t work out, I’ll help you,” this is one of the options for a wise attitude towards your child.
(slide 14)
* So, the basis of a strong parent-child relationship is unconditional love. What is unconditional love? Unconditional love is when you love a child regardless of his qualities and characteristics, inclinations, advantages and disadvantages, regardless of his behavior and how much he meets your expectations and satisfies your needs. This does not mean that you have to like any of his behavior. Unconditional love is when you love a child even when you don’t like his actions.
* Unconditional love is an ideal. You cannot feel absolute love for your child all the time, all the time. But the closer you come to this ideal, the more confident you will feel, and the more prosperous and calm your child will grow up. Many strive to achieve the ideal of unconditional love, but there are also many people who do not even know about the existence of such an attitude towards a child. The secret to raising well-rounded children is to provide a constant stream of unconditional love and approval. Explain to your child that nothing he has ever done can cause him to lose his love—not God's love, not yours. Like God's love, your love for your child must be unconditional. The most wonderful gift you can give your child is to instill in him the absolute conviction that you love him with all your heart, unconditionally, no matter what he does or what happens to him. A wise parent, when correcting the child’s actions, will always clarify that he does not like the child’s behavior, and not himself.
(slide 15)
If you don't be what I want, I won't love you anymore."
The opinion of psychologists. A promise not to love your child anymore is one of the most powerful means of education. However, this threat, as a rule, is not carried out. And children perfectly sense falsehood. Once you deceive, you can lose the child’s trust for a long time - he will perceive you as deceitful people.
It’s easier to say this: “I will still love you, but I don’t approve of your behavior.”
If you love a child and express your love for him only on occasions when he brings you joy, then this is love with conditions. In this case, the child will not feel loved. Love with conditions will only cause in him a feeling of his own inferiority and will prevent him from developing normally. By loving a child only when he meets your expectations and meets your requirements, you doom him to failure in life; he will become convinced that any efforts to be good are useless, because they are always not enough. He will be tormented by a feeling of insecurity, anxiety, low self-esteem, and all this will interfere with his spiritual and personal growth
(slide 16)
Authoritarian (sympathy, closeness, possessiveness)
The formula is this: my child, I do what I want.
This style is characterized by the complete destruction of the child’s personality and the suppression of his abilities and personal qualities.
You must do what I told you, because I am the main one in the house.
True love prepares the child as separate, as independent, which means living in his own way, having his own path in life, personality. The true, innermost feeling of love in a mother or father knows that it was not my property that was born, but a separate God-created personality, which, by its personal properties, is not “I” and cannot be my property. It is important for a mother to realize that her child is a separate person, and not an integral part of the parent. Sometimes it is especially difficult for a woman to come to terms with this, and if she has an authoritarian character, then it is doubly difficult, because “my child, I do what I want, and it doesn’t matter how old he is - twelve, twenty-three or thirty-seven.”
(slide 17)
The opinion of psychologists. Children must understand why and why they do something. Too strict education, based on principles that are not always clear to the child, resembles training. A child can unquestioningly do everything when you are around, and not give a damn about all the prohibitions when you are not around. Conviction is better than strictness. If necessary, you can say this: “Now you do as I say, and in the evening we will calmly discuss why and why.”
(slide 18)
My child will go to the pool, study music, English, I won’t let him miss his chance.”
The opinion of psychologists. Unfortunately, children do not always appreciate the efforts of their parents. And often the brilliant future drawn by adults in their imagination is shattered by the child’s complete reluctance to study. While the child is still small and obeys adults, but then... . . Wanting to break out of the cage of parental love, he begins to express protest in ways available to him: lying, skipping classes, it may be, taking drugs, etc. Therefore, while filling your child’s day with useful activities, do not forget to leave him some time for personal matters. At the beginning of life, children are absolutely helpless and dependent. However, good parenting aims to help children learn to think, make decisions and change the circumstances of their lives in all aspects of their lives. The range ranges from choosing a dress to wear tonight to deciding on a course at school. By learning to make age-appropriate decisions, children experience a sense of security and control over their own lives.
Concerned parents who sincerely wish the best for their child are trying to protect him from having to make painful decisions. They prevent children from falling and hurting their knees. Their motto is: “Let me solve this for you.” As a result, a very important part of God’s likeness atrophies in children, which should be developed in their character: the ability to assert themselves, to make changes that they desire. Children need to understand that their lives and destiny are primarily determined by themselves under the sovereignty of God. This helps them make informed decisions rather than avoid making decisions altogether. They learn to calculate the consequences of the choices they make in advance, and not resent that someone else decided for them, and now they don’t like the results.
(slide 19)
The surest way to spoil a child is to not love him.
No child has ever been spoiled by affection, kindness, understanding, or even indulgence. The ancient prejudice that love and affection can harm a child does not deserve the slightest trust; the opposite is likely to harm
(slide 20)
. At the beginning of the meeting, I gave you a seed. Take it out now, please. This seed reminds me of the emergence and growth of our children. Like this seed, cultivated or wild plants grow from our children. And in our hands, a beautiful flower, or a prickly lonely cactus, will grow from this seed. And just like with this seed, which someone squeezed so forcefully in their hands that it crumbled, someone put it in their pocket and forgot, and someone even put it aside and forgot, this is what we do with our children. Either we show complete indifference, or periodically we remember and begin to educate him, or we squeeze him so that he cannot breathe, we break him. We have the power to keep our child safe and sound, to raise him into a full-fledged PERSONALITY.
(slide 21)
Motherhood and parental love are inseparable concepts for both children and adults. Unloved children grow up into adults with an unhealthy psyche, poor health and a distorted outlook on life. “LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.” Great phrase. It’s not easy, of course, life is different. But if you live by this phrase, everything will work out, not right away of course, but it will definitely work out.
Like a candle flame, each person has his own time, his own length of the road. We are not able to interrupt the burning of a candle, we can only support the bright and warm breath of the fire, help to shelter it from the wind so that it does not go out and can burn out exactly as much as God has allocated for it.
I wish you the best of luck in raising your children with Love.
(slide 22)
Love has angel wings. A film about an angel.
