Parent meeting in 2nd grade Topic: “Evaluation criteria in 2nd grade. First assessment and how to treat it” MOU Cadet School named after General Ermolov. - presentation

Parent meeting “First grades” in 2nd grade

Kovtunenko Elena

Parent meeting “First grades” in 2nd grade

Ratings . How should we treat them?

Dear parents ! Just recently, you were worried and worried when sending your children to 1st grade . Each of you asked yourself the question: how will my child’s school life turn out? Will he like it there? Will you be lucky with your teacher, with your comrades? And, of course, you were all worried about the question: how will my child study? Will he be able to study well? What grades will he receive ?

But in 1st grade by order of the Ministry of Education, grades . Have you ever wondered why? First of all, this is due to the psychological characteristics of children of this age. When children come to school, they have a number of difficulties getting used to their new life. Children are not yet sufficiently able to listen, concentrate, or finish what they start. They need to learn to compare, draw conclusions, prove, and defend their point of view. In addition, the child must learn to enter into relationships with classmates and the teacher . The child is anxious and worried. And if we also add worries about the grades , then the child may develop a real neurosis. That is why assessment in 1st grade takes the form of an oral teacher assessment .

But 1st grade is already behind us . From the beginning of 2nd grade, our children began to receive their first school grades . Today I would like to talk to you about how we adults should approach these assessments . Should we always be happy with A's and sad with C's? How to help your child cope with psychological stress when receiving a bad grade ?

First evaluations are associated with both positive and negative experiences. Psychologists have proven that a child’s attitude towards grades is purely individual, depending on his character, temperament and the parents’ reaction to grades .

Unfortunately, parents, voluntarily or unwittingly, build their attitude towards their child depending on his academic performance, i.e., on the grades . It is we, adults, who often teach children to worry, worry, and fear evaluations as the most powerful punitive instrument. If, when talking about school, we first of all ask children about grades and react violently to both good and bad ones, for a child grades become the main part of their school life.

Let's think about what questions we ask our schoolchildren. When we ask: “How are things at school? What did you get?"

, we thereby show that we are interested, first of all,
in grades . But the questions: “What did you learn new today?
Which guys did you play with today? What lesson was the most interesting for you and why?”, they make the child understand that the main thing in school is learning and communication. For many children, the grade becomes a measure not of his work, but of himself. The child thinks that if I get good grades , that means I'm good. Or my mother began to love me less because I didn’t have many A’s. This position is dangerous because in the future it can lead to the formation of dependence on the opinions of others. The child may develop constant anxiety, fear of not being able to cope, and looking bad in the eyes of parents and classmates . He develops complete self-doubt, as a result of which he loses interest in learning.

Therefore, the grades that children receive should in no way influence our opinion about him and our feelings towards him. It is important that the child understands: sometimes something doesn’t work out for him, but he himself does not become bad.

Now, let's talk about how we, parents the grades our children receive ?

Well, with «5»

everything is clear here.
They praised him, kissed him, and rejoiced with him. What if the score is not very good ?
As a rule, we scold, frighten, insult, humiliate, and punish the child. These phrases are familiar to many of us - And who are you born ? I got straight A's at school!

“That’s how you’ll be driving 2nd and 3rd for the rest of your life!”

- Go to your room! I don't want to see you or talk to you!

Or even worse: “Father will come, he’ll show you for a bad mark!”

Remember Ilya Repin’s painting “Deuce Again”

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The painting was painted in 1884, 128 years ago. But this problem is still relevant today. The boy enters the house with his head down. All family members immediately guessed what had happened. Two again. Mom is very upset, my sister looks at her brother reproachfully. Only one dog is happy about the boy’s arrival, which fawns over the boy, wants to take pity on him, calm him down, and lick his hot tears. I really want this role to be taken on not by the dog, but by the parents . an assessment of his knowledge at school, and at home the child expects calm help from his parents , not reproaches.
Remember, dear parents ! Scolding a child for bad grades is a thankless task and double punishment for him. After all, he himself is already upset. And your severity, lack of attention, demonstrative silence or offensive words can generally suppress faith in yourself and in your success. Intimidation and threats will not achieve good results.

Remember yourself when you didn’t pass the exams at a driving school the first time, or didn’t answer the questions of the certification commission when increasing your qualification rank. How did you feel? Few adults will not suffer mental trauma from this. What then can we say about our little children?

There is no need to make a tragedy happen because of a bad grade ! Learn to control your emotions. Instead of reproaches, in a calm voice, in a friendly tone, ask:

“How did this happen? After all, you’re great for me!

It’s okay, don’t be upset, we still have time to fix everything!

Let’s try to figure out together what you didn’t understand.”

This will help the child calm down, thereby letting him know that you support him in a difficult situation.

But you can’t feel sorry or console him. Don’t tell him: “Well, think about it, what nonsense, you’ll fix it next time!”

Such words extinguish his desire to achieve good results.
The child may feel indifference on the part of the parents .
He will begin to think that no more is expected of him. There is no point in trying to study further. No one is interested in his successes. A bad rating is a signal that help is needed. Parents need to pay attention to how often the child gives bad grades , in what subjects, on what day of the week, for oral or written answers. Perhaps he doesn’t understand something, or maybe he is weakened after an illness, or a child with chronic illnesses gets tired faster, and therefore has a harder time mastering the program. Or maybe there are some family problems that the child feels well. In any case, it is important to find the cause and provide timely help.

But at the same time, in order to get a good grade , it is unacceptable to force children to work for 5 - 6 hours, instead of 2. To force them to rewrite work 4 times, forgetting that children’s hands are still very tired. The child does not have time to go for a walk, which is necessary, to communicate with peers. Such zeal under your pressure will only lead to overwork and loss of interest in learning in general.

You cannot set children the task of avoiding bad grades at all costs. This goal requires constant nervous tension. If a child learns under pressure, he will be driven only by the fear of punishment and bad grades , especially if knowledge is not easy for him. His entire school life turns into a pursuit of good grades . First, it’s cheating from your neighbor’s desk, then correcting grades in notebooks and diaries, then tearing out pages, begging for grades from the teacher . The fear of telling parents about a bad grade leads to the beginning and then consolidation of deceit. In this case, there can be no question of the desire to acquire knowledge and interest in learning.

Remember, a child cannot be forced to study! And excessive strictness can only provoke severe stress, which will further reduce academic performance. Help him find and develop his abilities n. R. in music, drawing, sports. Give your child somewhere to show his best side. Try in every possible way to increase his self-esteem . To do this, praise him even for small successes and never compare him with other students who are doing well in their studies. Better show him how he has grown compared to himself. Let the child see for himself that he is not standing still, but is acquiring more and more knowledge and skills.

Do not physically punish your child under any circumstances! By doing this, you will not only not improve his performance, but you can morally cripple him, embitter him, make him deceitful, cowardly, stubborn and rude.

And now I want to focus not on the bad, but on the good ratings . It would seem that the child is studying well, what else is needed? But, many parents do not allow receiving even 4. You cannot demand that the child always have only 5. This can not only affect his health, but also lead to the child developing unhealthy ambition. For example, he starts crying after receiving a 4. Or pouts his lips if he was not called first . Behind these actions are hidden traits of selfishness, which are still barely noticeable. You don’t always need to strive for your child to have straight A’s. Remember that it is impossible to be the first in everything and everywhere. Your requirements should always be balanced with the child’s capabilities. Help him identify those subjects in which he is quite capable of getting high marks .

If, for example, mathematics is not his strong point

, with your demands you will develop in the child a persistent aversion to the subject and create a fear of failure.

In families where there is a trusting, warm relationship between parents and children, the child will not be afraid to talk about his problems. Where there is no overprotection and excessive control, children learn more successfully, they have less fears and anxiety. Then your son or daughter, coming home from school, will calmly say: “Mom, I got a C on the test today, but I realized my mistake in the problem. It’s a pity that I didn’t have time to correct it in class.” And then the mother will note her child’s prudence and praise him not for the grade , but for the result.

What conclusions will we draw today so that the assessment does not become a bone of contention in your family?

• Don't scold your child for a bad grade . Remember that he really wants to be good in your eyes.

• Sympathize with your child if he has worked for a long time, but the result of his work is not good. Explain to him that not only a high result is important. More important is the knowledge that he can acquire as a result of daily, hard work.

• Don't make your child beg for a grade at the end of the quarter for your peace of mind.

• Do not teach your child to cheat, humiliate himself and adapt for the sake of a positive result in the form of a high grade .

• Never express doubts about the objectivity of a grade given to your child out loud .

• If you have doubts, go to school and try to objectively understand the situation.

• Do not unreasonably blame other adults and children for your own children's problems.

• Support your child in his, albeit not very significant, victories over himself, over his laziness.

• Have a celebration to celebrate getting an excellent grade . The good, like the bad, is remembered by the child for a long time and he wants to repeat it.

• Demonstrate the positive results of your work so that your child wants to imitate you.

Dear parents ! I wish you complete understanding with your children. Take care of your relationships. Always remember that in life there are somethings that come and go, but there are also things that stay with us forever - these are our children!

Parent meeting in 1st grade. 2nd quarter. article (grade 1) on the topic

Parent meeting in 1st grade.

2nd quarter.

Parent meeting on the topic: “What you teach a child to do, that’s what you will get from him.”

Goals:

• convince parents of the need for daily communication with the child and monitoring his progress at school;
• aim at organizing teacher-student-parent cooperation;
• sum up the results of the 1st quarter.

– We are people who have different educations, different destinies, different characters, different views on life, but there is something that unites us all – these are our children. And we really want our children to be happy and successful in life!

On this boat, under sail, we will go with you to distant places. We will invite everyone who wants to come with us. Well, do you agree? Decided? Let's swim!

– Ever since the School of Joy, we have been talking about the fact that the education of children is a common cause. Therefore, I invite everyone to this ship. Let's summarize the path we have taken, the length of one academic quarter. – So, the theme of our meeting is “What you teach a child to do, that’s what you will get from him.”

Results of the 1st quarter.

Children came to class with different levels of readiness for school:

• Intellectual maturity (level of proficiency in mental operations (analysis, generalization, classification), level of speech development, different forms of attention, etc.)
• Emotional maturity (ability to control one’s actions, emotions, focus on hard work...)
• Social maturity (the ability to communicate with peers. And at school, to play the role of a student, obeying the teacher to solve only one task - the learning process. Follow generally accepted school rules)

Therefore, in the 1st quarter we had to pay great attention to individual work, both with the child and with the family. – All the children in our class came from different families and attended different preschool educational institutions. Therefore, first of all, in the 1st quarter we faced the following tasks:

• The birth of a team.
• Establishing traditions.
• Rules of communication.
• Rules of cultural behavior.

(The teacher gives a commentary on his class, gives examples)

The main task of the school is to teach the child to learn. – So, what should children learn in the 1st quarter in the Russian language and literary reading.

The teacher analyzes the class's progress.

1. Literature.

People say: “Alone in the field is no warrior,” - therefore, today at the meeting I offer a short consultation on how to help a child master reading (UMK Harmony).

To support a child’s interest in reading, during the holidays in the “Reader” I offer the task “Help Autumn color the leaves.”

3. Mathematics

The teacher informs parents of the test results for the 1st quarter.

Slide 13 – close cooperation – teacher – student – ​​parent.

The information that parents give to first-graders largely determines the children's future attitude towards school and their first teacher. It is important to remember that contact between teacher and student depends equally on both the teacher and the student, and to a large extent on his parents. I offer some tips on how to build a relationship with a teacher.

It was very difficult for our first graders in the 1st quarter. But there is nothing secondary in schooling and education. What you teach a child to do is what you will get from him.

Our cooperation will help us overcome all difficulties.