Consultation for parents “Family and family values.” consultation on the topic
Consultation for parents
"Family and family values."
What is family?
Family is a small group based on marriage or consanguinity, whose members are bound by a common life, mutual assistance, moral and legal responsibility.
In the theory of family law, a family is defined as a circle of persons bound by personal non-property and property rights and obligations arising from marriage, kinship, and adoption.
For a child, the family is the environment in which the conditions for his physical, mental, emotional and intellectual development are formed.
For an adult, the family is a source of satisfaction for a number of his needs and a small team that places various and quite complex demands on him. At the stages of a person’s life cycle, his functions and status in the family change successively.
Family... What should a family be built on? Maybe based on trust and love? Or maybe on mutual respect and understanding? Of course, all these are components of a strong foundation for a family, in a word, family values. That is, family values are something that cannot be bought for any money, inherited or stolen. Family values can be acquired and carried throughout life by everyone together. Of course, it is difficult to talk about all the stages of family formation in one article. Therefore, let's talk about how you can introduce family values, such as family traditions.
About family traditions
The real desire for family happiness and family well-being is expressed in the creation of family traditions. Once upon a time, traditions were a mandatory feature of a “joint” family and reflected the moral position of its members. Early involvement of children in discussing all issues of family life is a long-standing good tradition.
Family traditions are the spiritual atmosphere of a home, which is made up of the daily routine, customs, way of life and habits of its inhabitants. Thus, some families prefer to get up early, have a quick breakfast, go to work and meet in the evening without asking questions or talking. In other families, it is customary to have meals together, discuss plans, and there is increased attention to each other’s problems.
In each house, during its existence, its own ritual develops. The house gets used to its residents and begins to live at their rhythm. Its energy structure changes somewhat under the influence of traditions. After all, by and large, traditions are not only the family way of life, but also the relationships that develop between family members. It is these relationships that the house captures. If a family sets traditions for themselves as obligatory, then they can do a good job. Often following traditions helps us live. And no matter how strange they may seem, one thing is important: family traditions and rituals should not be cumbersome and far-fetched. Let them come into life naturally.
It is extremely difficult to form a family tradition if the children have grown up and have already formed a common attitude towards the family. Another thing is young families, where parents are free to show the child all the beauty of the world, envelop him with love and form a reliable position in life throughout his life.
A small child perceives the world through the eyes of adults - his parents. Dad and mom form a child's picture of the world from the very first meeting with their baby. First, they build a world of touches, sounds and visual images for him, then they teach him the first words, then they convey their attitude to all this.
How a child subsequently treats himself, others and life in general depends entirely on the parents. Life may seem to him like an endless holiday or an exciting journey, or he may see it as a frightening foray into wild places or as boring, thankless and hard work awaiting everyone right outside the school gates.
If most of the usual family rituals do not carry restrictions, but only joy and pleasure, this strengthens in children a sense of family integrity, a sense of the uniqueness of their own home and confidence in the future. That charge of inner warmth and optimism that each of us carries within us is acquired in childhood, and the greater it is, the better. Of course, a child’s character is not formed in one day, but we can say with confidence: the more childhood was like a holiday, and the more joy there is in it, the happier the little man will be in the future.
Start small - reading at night. Even if your child is still too small to understand what you are saying to him, just the sound of your voice will be incredibly useful for the baby. Every book should teach a child, educate him.
If necessary, you can compose evening stories yourself. Firstly, it will not take you much time (20-30 minutes a day), since the fairy tale should not be long so that the child does not get tired. Secondly, you yourself will be able to teach him what you consider good.
Family traditions and rituals:
- allow the baby to feel the stability of their lifestyle: “in any weather”;
- in your family what has been established will take place;
- give him a feeling of confidence in the world around him and security;
- set the baby up for optimism and a positive perception of life, when every day is a holiday”;
- create unique childhood memories that the baby will someday tell his children about;
- allow you to feel proud of yourself and your family.
- You are quite capable of creating several family traditions that your children and grandchildren may adhere to! Don't forget just three main rules:
- a repeating event should be bright, positive, and memorable for the child;
- Tradition is a tradition to always be observed;
- you can use smells, sounds, visual images,
– The main thing is that there is something in this traditional action that influences the child’s feelings and perceptions. What can family holidays and rituals be like? Instead of the usual “hello-bye”, a friendly family can agree to greet each other with a special “code” word, understandable only to “their own”! For example: “Great, hero!” or “Hello, princess!” It’s funny if, when saying hello, someone says the first half of the word, and his interlocutor says the second. You can also come up with special forms of farewell - like funny wishes or advice to each other for the whole day. There is great scope for creating family traditions in the kitchen and culinary talents of one of the family members. It's great if everyone gets together for a family lunch or dinner on the weekends. The main thing is that this should not be a dull eating of delicacies, but be remembered by the clink of glasses, the appetizing smell of delicious dishes and the smiles of household members. It will be even more interesting if you give your child the opportunity to master his “signature dish,” which will take pride of place on the table. Or invite him to learn something new together every Sunday. Kitchen experiments are good for babies because the result is always visible, tangible, and... smells very tasty! You can also organize celebrations of “national” cuisine - one or a variety of them! This way, the baby will be able to learn a lot of new things about the world around him and master the exotic wisdom of behavior at the table - for example, how to hold chopsticks or... drink from a saucer. Here are some more ideas for lasting culinary traditions: a variety of preparations “for the winter,” a unique way of making tea or coffee, or a traditional picnic for the first weekend of summer. You may be surprised, but the best tradition associated with a child’s birthday is... really celebrating this day as the best holiday! Many adults sadly recall that in their family “it was not customary to celebrate birthdays.” Let your baby never utter this sad phrase!
A birthday as a noisy, cheerful holiday with exactly those guests whom the hero of the occasion himself wants to invite is the best gift. Let the baby feel his importance to loved ones from childhood, learn to receive guests and... of course, get used to the tradition of celebrating birthdays! And for adults, this holiday is an occasion to fantasize about special rituals. In many families, it is customary to mark the child’s growth on a special ruler. You can trace the baby’s arms and legs every year or create a photo gallery. In a word, do something that will help him, then remember his childhood. Together with your child, you can start drawing up a family tree or start collecting some kind of collection; the scope for imagination is limitless! The main thing is to feel that it is truly “yours” and brings joy to all family members. An excellent option is an annual trip with the whole family to the sea or out of town for a picnic. During such trips, the family becomes even closer, resolving internal conflicts.
Sunday watching movies together not in the cinema, but at home. Remember how before, when there were no computers and tablets, the whole family gathered around the TV and watched a film, discussing the characters, sharing their impressions of what they saw. This is very unifying. Regardless of whether you are trying to preserve old home traditions that are dear to you or your husband, or are trying to come up with and instill in the family something new, remember that childhood shapes a child for life. And the main thing in childhood is that the child has it. Try to know when to stop: overly strict rules by which a family lives, which do not leave children any “freedom of maneuver,” overstrain the child’s psyche. The absence of a stable home structure and predictable home rituals, which calm the baby with their indispensable obligation, conveys to the child a feeling of insecurity at home and the precariousness of the universe.
May your home be cozy and bright!
Are family values the basis of school success? Parent meeting. - presentation
Are family values the basis for school success? Parent meeting
A child is a mirror of the family; Just as the sun is reflected in a drop, so the moral purity of the mother and father is reflected in the children. The family is the primary environment where a person must learn to do good. (V.A. Sukhomlinsky)
One good example is better than a hundred words. What the father does, the son tries to do. (Proverbs)
Questions for parents Is there a library in your house? Do you go to the theater, exhibitions, or concerts with your children? What newspapers and magazines do your family subscribe to? Do you discuss the books you read? What is your child's favorite book? Do you discuss television programs and films with your children? How often do you spend time in nature? Do you go on holiday with the whole family? What place does sport occupy in your family?
What family traditions exist in your family? birthday celebrations; New Year's Eve with a decorated Christmas tree; going out into nature; joint vacation; other?
Questions for parents to discuss the importance of family cultural values for child development. What values were a priority in your upbringing? Have you ever had disagreements with your parents about values and behavior? How did you deal with these differences? How do you solve this problem with your own children?
Necessary conditions for the development of children 1. Emotional attitude to the matter. 2. Fostering consciousness and responsible attitude. 3. Understanding the social importance and necessity of the work being done
How to evoke an emotional attitude towards activities; the role of parents in nurturing love for various types of activities; example of father and mother, older brothers and sisters; their attitude to the matter; Team work; conversations about the role of knowledge; travel games; use of game situations; hiking, family outings, active recreation; excursions; advice (given in a timely manner), assistance (provided in a timely manner);
MISTAKES in organizing family leisure time: children spend too much time watching TV or the computer, do not spend enough time in the fresh air, parents often do not spend enough time with their children, citing being busy or tired.
Thank you to all the participants in our discussion and please always remember: Family is something that we share among everyone, A little bit of everything: tears and laughter, Rise and fall, joy, sadness, Friendship and quarrels, a stamp of silence. Family is something that is always with you. Let seconds, weeks, years rush by, But your dear walls, your father’s house - Your heart will forever remain in it!
