training for parents “Me and my child”
10. Exercise “I am a good parent because...”.
Parents in a circle are asked to say the phrase “I am a good parent because...” and highlight the positive in the process of raising their child.
Our meeting showed what skillful, resourceful, active and caring parents you are. In any situation, find the right solution, never get lost and always remain loving, smiling and patient.
I want to tell a parable about you - mothers, about the most dear people to your children.
11. Parable “Angel”
(to the music of “Ave Maria”).
“The day before his birth, the child asked God: “They say that tomorrow I will be sent to Earth.” How will I live there, because I am so small and defenseless? God answered: “I will give you an Angel who will wait for you and take care of you.” The child thought for a moment, then said again: “Here in Heaven I only sing and laugh, that’s enough for me to be happy.” God answered: “Your Angel will sing and smile for you, you will feel his love and you will be happy.” Then the child asked: “I heard that there is evil on Earth.” Who will protect me? - Your Angel will protect you, even at the risk of his own life. - I will be sad because I won’t be able to see you anymore... - Your Angel will tell you about me and I will always be by your side. At that moment, voices began to be heard from Earth; and the child asked in a hurry: “God, tell me what is the name of my Angel?” - His name doesn't matter. You will simply call him Mom...
Love your children, always be their Guardian Angels..."
12. Reflection.
Psychologist:
Our training session has come to an end.
Possible questions for reflection:
— What new things did you buy?
- What would you like to wish for yourself?
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What did you like most? — What didn’t work out, what turned out to be difficult? Why do you think?
— How are you going to implement your achievements?
Thank you for your participation!
Love, health, happiness, mutual understanding in your families! Love and take care of your family and friends!
See you again!
Recommendations from a psychologist: “Communicate with the child. How?"
1. Unconditional acceptance
The first rule of communication between a parent and a child is to accept him as he is, without conditions or demands. The child should live with the feeling that he is in any case loved, desired, valuable and dear, even if he did wrong.
2.Dissatisfaction
At the same time, it is possible and necessary to express dissatisfaction - but not with the child himself, but with his specific actions. Not “you’re bad,” but “you did something bad,” or even better, “I feel bad about the way you acted.”
3.Active listening
Perhaps the main technique that parents should learn is active listening in difficult situations: when the child is sad, difficult or bad. The purpose of the technique is to let the child understand that in difficult times he is heard, is not indifferent to his problem, and is understood.
Parent meeting - training “Together”
Parent meeting – training “Together”
Target:
rallying the parent team and building effective team interaction.
Tasks:
- Formation and strengthening of a common team spirit by uniting a group of people;
- Development of responsibility and contribution of each participant in solving common problems;
- Receiving emotional and physical pleasure from the results of the training;
- Self-awareness as a team.
During a child’s stay in kindergarten, we (children, teachers, parents) make a triangle. At the head of the triangle, of course, is the child. By learning new things, he discovers himself (what I know, what I can do, what I am capable of). The task of adults is to help him in this difficult task; we should not forget about society, which plays a big role in the development of the child. What do you think will happen to a tripod stool if one leg breaks? (will fall) That's right, it will fall! Or let’s remember Krylov’s fable “The Swan, the Crayfish and the Pike” - “When there is no agreement among the comrades, their business will not go well, nothing will come out of it, only torment!” Hence the conclusion is that we have to combine our efforts to make children comfortable and interesting in kindergarten, and here mutual understanding and support are very important. You and I will live for 4 years as one, I hope, friendly family.
The team needs a positive microclimate, mutual understanding and interaction... Therefore, we decided to devote our meeting today to closer acquaintance, rapprochement and unity of our team of parents. After all, cohesion is an opportunity for the entire team to become one to achieve specific goals and objectives. And the close-knit team achieves many peaks and victories. Therefore, today we will have an interesting time. Let's play and think.
"Group Rules"
Goal: to determine the rules for effective group work.
Materials: Whatman paper with already written rules.
A single form of addressing each other as “you” (by name). To create a climate of trust in the group, suggest addressing each other on a first-name basis, including the coach. This psychologically equalizes everyone, including the presenter, regardless of age, social status, life experience, and contributes to the emancipation of training participants.
Communication based on the “here and now” principle. During the training, everyone only talks about what worries them right now and discusses what is happening to them in the group.
Confidentiality of everything that happens. Everything that happens during the training is not disclosed under any pretext or discussed outside the training. This will help the training participants to be sincere and feel free. Thanks to this rule, participants will be able to trust each other and the group as a whole.
Personification of statements. Impersonal words and expressions such as “Most people believe that...”, “Some of us think...” are replaced with “I believe that...”, “I think...”. In other words, we speak only on our own behalf and only personally to someone. Sincerity in communication. During the training, say only what you think and feel, i.e. sincerity must replace tactful behavior.
Inadmissibility of getting personal. We should not talk about personalities or any negative qualities of a person, but about his actions.
"Feedback". Each participant must let others feel how he treats them.
Participants name the rules that must be followed to successfully work during the training. The basic rules of group work are discussed and accepted: the rule of activity, the rule of time control, the rule of organized communication, the rule of sensitivity to oneself and others, the rule of confidentiality of information and discipline.
Now sit down in a circle and now we will repeat the conditions, i.e. principles of training.
“Here and Now” - a conversation about what is happening in the group at any given moment; exclusion of general, abstract reasoning.
Personification of statements - rejection of impersonal judgments such as “usually believed”, “some here believe”.
Emphasizing the language of feelings - avoiding value judgments, replacing them with a description of one’s own emotional states.
Activity - involvement in intensive interpersonal interaction of each of the group members, the research position of the participants.
Confidential communication - sincerity, open expression of emotions and feelings.
Confidentiality is a recommendation not to transfer the content of communications that develop during the training process outside the group.
Dating game.
Participants sit in a circle, each taking turns pronouncing their name and adding a characteristic quality to the first letter of the name. Each subsequent participant names the names and characteristics of the previous ones, so that the last one names everyone present. This allows you to remember the names of all parents well, introduces an element of play, relieves tension and confusion, and sometimes stiffness.
Exercise “Swap places those who...”
Goal: getting back into work, relieving accumulated stress.
Group members sit on chairs in a circle. The driver stands in the middle of the circle. He says: “Those who have two children, change places”; “Works all his life in one institution”; “Change places, those who love ice cream”; "Who was born in the spring"; “Change places, those in dresses”; “Change places those who sing well”; "Loves his job"; “Who has a pet at home”; loves to talk on the phone; who loves red; who loves ice cream; who likes to go to the movies; who loves to sing; who loves to dance; who is participating in the training for the first time; does he like to watch television series, etc.
Cohesion is an opportunity for a team to become one unit to achieve specific goals and objectives. And for this, I think we ourselves should be a little friendlier, closer to each other.
Atoms and molecules (leave in pairs)
Dating in pairs.
All parents are divided into pairs by coincidence while moving in the outer and inner circles. During 10 minutes of communication, going to different places so as not to disturb each other, they try to find out as much information as possible about the other child (name, what they love, what they value, what they are interested in, who their friends are, interests outside of home and school). Then all the parents gather again in a common circle, and each introduces their partner's child.
We have learned a lot about each other, and with the next exercise I want to see how attentive you are to each other.
Exercise “Who looks like” (for observation)
Participants are divided into pairs, stand with their backs to each other and describe what the person standing behind them looks like.
Cohesion is:
coincidence of interests, views, values and orientations of team members;
an atmosphere of psychological safety, goodwill, acceptance;
active, emotionally rich joint activity aimed at achieving a goal that is significant for all participants.
Exercise “Let’s line up”
Goal: learning the ability to distribute roles in a team, compare oneself with another participant based on similar characteristics.
Time: 10 minutes.
Progress of the exercise: “Now we will see how much of your common traits are manifested in each of you individually!” The participants’ task is to line up in one line according to their height. At the same time, you cannot talk. Then the task becomes more complicated - they need to line up by date and month of birth, by the length of their hair, by the distance of their place of residence from the college, by the colors of the rainbow in their clothes.
Psychological meaning of the exercise: Participants get to know each other better, learn to interact effectively in a team.
Discussion: Was it difficult for you to do this exercise? Why? What role have you chosen for yourself? Which execution strategy was most effective?
“Individuality” Time: 10 min.
Procedure: A game with the help of which you can get to know each other better. A situation is called to which the participants, having lost, must respond.
Expression options:
“Whoever has a brother should snap his fingers.”
- who has blue eyes - wink three times;
- whose height is more than 1m 70cm, let him shout “King Kong”;
- whose height is less than 1m 70cm, let him shout “Hurray”;
- let the one who ate a delicious breakfast this morning pat himself on the stomach;
- whoever was born from January to May, let him take the hand of one member of the group and dance with him;
- those born from April to December, let them hold hands and dance in a circle, first in one direction, then in the other;
- whoever loves dogs should bark;
— those who love cats will say “Meow!”;
- those who have red clothing items receive a special task: they must tell the neighbor on the right that he looks great today, and in different forms;
- whoever has a married sister, let him tell the neighbor on the left that I advise you to do the same;
- whoever drinks coffee with sugar and milk, stand according to your height;
- let the only child of his parents rise to the chair;
- whoever is glad that he got into this group will loudly say “Ah!”;
- whoever considers himself an inquisitive person, let him change places with someone who thinks the same;
- those who occasionally dreamed of becoming invisible will hide behind one of the participants;
- let anyone who knows how to play any musical instrument show how it’s done;
- those who have chocolate, chewing gum or candy with them, smack loudly three times.
Exercise “My highlight”
On a piece of paper, each participant writes his own quality, his own feature, which clearly characterizes him. Then the leaf is folded into an “airplane” and launched into the center of the circle. Each participant takes one airplane, once again launches it into the center of the circle, again the airplanes are disassembled and turned around. Take turns reading what is written on the pieces of paper, and the group guesses who this person is.
At the end of the exercise, it is discussed whether it was easy to find a quality in myself - “zest”, “how much I know myself”, “how others perceive me”, what it was like when they attributed other people’s qualities...
It is impossible to do all the work alone; from time to time you still have to resort to the help of another person. In a close-knit team, mutual assistance is the key to success; without support, only the small goal that everyone has set will be achieved, but the team’s goal will remain at zero level.
Why cohesion is important: the opportunity to become one team that feels, supports and inspires new actions and deeds.
Exercise “You and I are similar in that...”
Goal: to get to know each other, how they are similar, in order to already find friends with similar interests.
Progress of the exercise: Participants line up in two circles - inner and outer, facing each other. The number of participants in both circles is the same. Participants in the outer circle say to their partners opposite a phrase that begins with the words: “You and I are similar in that...”. For example: that we live on planet Earth, study in the same class, etc. Participants in the inner circle answer: “You and I are different in that...” For example: that we have different eye colors, different hair lengths, etc. Then, at the command of the leader, the participants in the inner circle move (clockwise), changing partners. The procedure is repeated until every member of the inner circle has met every member of the outer circle.
Discussion:
What emotions did you experience during the exercise? What new things have you learned about others?
What interesting things did you find out?
Let's think about what you could give to your group to make interaction in it even more effective and relationships in it more cohesive? Let's say what each of us gives to the group. For example, I give you optimism and mutual trust. Next, each participant expresses what he would like to give to the group.
Discussion of the training
Parable of the ancient Greek sage Aesop.
The Sun and the Wind argued who was stronger, and the Wind said: “I will prove that I am stronger. Do you see the old man in the raincoat? I bet I can get him to take off his coat faster than you can.”
The sun hid behind a cloud, and the wind began to blow stronger and stronger until it almost turned into a hurricane.
But the harder he blew, the tighter the old man wrapped himself in his cloak. At last the Wind died down and ceased; and then the Sun peeked out from behind the clouds and smiled tenderly at the traveler. The traveler warmed up under the hot rays of the sun, became cheerful and took off his cloak. And the Sun told the Wind that kindness and friendliness are always stronger than rage and strength.
— Well, all the gifts have been given, the games have been completed, the words have been spoken. You were all active and worked well as a team. Don’t forget that you are a single whole, each of you is an important and necessary, unique part of this whole! Together you are strong! Thanks everyone for participating!
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MBDOU "DS No. 6 "Buratino" Megion city, Khanty-Mansiysk Autonomous Okrug - Ugra
Teacher-psychologist Yulia Viktorovna Kotova
