Difficulties of growing up. Do you love yourself?
Teacher. Dear guys, the age you are at now is very important and at the same time difficult. The years between childhood and youth are called adolescence. New sensations appear, worldview changes, new problems arise.
1 student. Growing up is never easy. Every year life makes more and more demands on us. You can often hear from adults: “My childhood and youth were cloudless, I didn’t have any problems, everyone understood me, and I was happy with everything.”
Teacher. Of course, if the problems of growing up have been successfully overcome, then adults usually forget them just as easily.
If we compare different periods of a person’s life, childhood is the best of them. When your parents still take care of you, they provide you with everything you need; you do not bear the burden of responsibility not only for yourself and your actions, but also for your loved ones. You don't have to make big decisions.
But while you have not yet become an adult, it seems to you, of course, that there is nothing more important and more complex than what worries you. And it’s good if your parents have not yet forgotten the time of their growing up and understand you and help you. But don’t even think about judging your moms and dads if this doesn’t happen. Try to understand them.
When you were still in the very warm and safe world of childhood, your parents took full care of your needs: they blew on your bruised knees, wiped your tears, took you in their arms when you were tired. Most of the time you played, and life seemed very pleasant to you.
2 student. But everything comes to an end someday, and we even rush for time: we would rather become adults, earn our own living, start our own family, make our own decisions, become independent.
3 student. But you can’t suddenly become adults. The process of turning a child into an adult lasts years - on average from 12 to 20 years. And this time is given so that we understand a lot, learn a lot, experience a lot and, as a result, acquire all the qualities inherent in an adult.
4 student. When entering the world of growing up, we need to be prepared for the difficulties that we will have to face. We need to learn to cope with these difficulties. And if we know what to expect from this world, then it will seem amazing and beautiful to us.
Teacher. If during a pleasant journey you encounter an abyss, there is no need to fall into it. You can go around the chasm. But for this you need to know the detours. It’s the same in life: it’s impossible to completely avoid abyss-problems, but they can be solved wisely, avoiding serious injuries. Let's paraphrase the well-known proverb: “A smart man learns from his own mistakes, and a wise man learns from the mistakes of others.” We will try to be not only smart, but also wise. It is unwise for everyone to step on the same rake and suffer defeat.
1 student. What are these dangers and abysses into which most teenagers fall on their way to growing up?
Teacher. The most dangerous and deepest abyss is a feeling of self-doubt, or even a feeling of inferiority.
2 student. It’s terrible to feel worse than others, to feel that no one likes you, that you are a loser, unlucky, that you have a disgusting appearance, that you don’t have the same abilities as others. Many teenagers believe that they are worthless as people.
3 student. The oppressive feeling of inferiority is the deep abyss into which many teenagers fall. This problem gives rise to many other problems.
4 student. First of all, let's be clear: no people are without flaws, and no people are perfect. Every person has pros and cons. You can always find something to complain about, something to laugh at, as well as something to be proud of and respect for.
Teacher. "Know yourself" . Listen to a description of two characters. Roman and Irina are individuals with different worldviews and behavior. Determine who you are - Roman or Irina - and listen to advice.
5 student. Novel.
The novel never attracted attention and always remained in the background. He has no friends at all. Sometimes it seems to him that everyone has forgotten about his existence. And he himself carefully avoids dating. This is what he says about himself: “For the eight years that I have been studying at school, I have not had a single friend. Nobody cares about me. No one is interested in me. I walk to and from school alone. I don't go to any class or school events because I'm embarrassed to sit all alone. My parents don’t understand me either; I constantly fight with my sister. I do not have anyone! My phone never rings. I have no one to talk to. Nobody cares about me. Sometimes I feel like I have nothing to live for.
6 student. Irina .
There are so many freaks in our class! And where do these come from? They would sit at home and keep their heads down. Either way, we are. Our company is simply class! Especially Svetka. So cool. He will break off whoever you want. How many times did she bring Sonya to tears? It's hilarious! And that’s right, this Sonya is an elephant, I hate her. We've been making fun of her for a long time. Back in the 3rd grade, Svetka wrote her a note: “Sonya, you’re just a walking horror, a barrel with a tail. I have three suggestions for you: 1 – throw yourself under the car; 2 – jump from the ninth floor; 3 – drink poison. You're taking up too much space."
Teacher. Are you Roman?
You have no idea how many teenagers feel exactly like you. Thousands of schoolchildren are overwhelmed with a sense of their own insignificance. Sometimes to such an extent that this feeling takes away their desire to live.
Are you one of those who suffer every day? You always have a lump in your throat because no one cares about you, no one likes you, and maybe even everyone hates you. You want to crawl out of your skin and become someone else.
1 student. Stop! Let's not continue further or look for who is to blame for this. We will try to find a way out of this situation.
2 student. You really need to come out of your skin and put on a new one. Not in a literal sense, of course.
3 student. Keep in mind - it's not that simple. But it is possible and necessary!
4 student. You need to understand your true value, the value of your human personality. Get out of the trap of uncertainty.
Teacher. First of all, determine why you don’t like yourself (we will talk about this at our next meetings).
And now I turn to those who saw Irina’s character in themselves.
Are you Irina?
Have you ever thought that you differ from a murderer only in that he kills people with his own hands, and you kill with your ridicule and mockery? He kills physically, and you kill mentally.
1 student. Any criminal sooner or later receives punishment for his deeds. Even if not now, but after many years, your evil will definitely return to you.
2 student. Perhaps you will outgrow your cruelty and become a normal, kind girl, woman, as nature intended.
3 student. But the wounds that you inflict on the souls of the people you offended will remain for many years, and perhaps will never heal. Think about it.
4 student. Are your dubious entertainments worth the suffering of the people you despise and the remorse of conscience that will torment you for the rest of your life?
Teacher. Now you will hear the most unexpected and surprising thing for yourself, perhaps at first you will not agree with me. But do not rush to make hasty conclusions, we will try to gradually understand everything and come to an agreement. So, the reason for the behavior of both Roman and Irina is the same: both Roman and Irina have low self-esteem. These are just different manifestations of the same phenomenon.
Before we understand everything, understand why lack of self-esteem is so dangerous, how it manifests itself, how to learn to respect and value yourself, we will learn each of our indicators of self-esteem.
Distribute test 1, Self-Esteem Assessment, printed out for each participant.
Teacher. This test is important for you. You don't have to show it to anyone. You don't need to sign it. So be honest with yourself to get the most accurate number.
You will complete this task at home. Don't be upset if your self-esteem score is far from ideal. With effort, you can raise or lower it to the desired level. The main thing is to understand that this needs to be done.
At the next meetings, when you already know your personal indicator of self-esteem, we will talk about the dangers of low self-esteem, how to cope with it and love yourself.
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Class hour on the topic “Feeling of adulthood. What it is?"
MBOU "Surskaya Secondary School No. 2"
Feeling of adulthood. What it is?
Class teacher S.N. Panfilova
2015
What is growing up? (children's answers)
Growing up means acquiring skills that will allow a person to become an equal, independent member of adult society. Teenagers strive to achieve emotional freedom from parents and other adults, choose a suitable career path and become financially independent, as well as develop their own philosophy, moral ideology of life, and social behavior.
Growing up is the ability to adequately understand oneself, to understand, to describe what is happening to us.
How does it happen and how to force it? Factors influencing growing up?
1. Extreme situations 2. Personal life, responsibility for others 3. Psychoactive substances 4. Opinion of close and dear people 5. Social factor (lifestyle, youth associations, groups, etc.) 6. Biological factors (physical development) 7 Peculiarities of education 8. Definition of goals.
When a person grows up, how is this expressed?
This is expressed by: 1) The fact that a person no longer cares how sophisticated the phone is. The main thing is to call (everyone knows the truth); 2) The fact that the VKontakte nickname is removed; 3) The fact that there is a whole photograph, and not a collage; 4) The fact that there are no inscriptions on the photo; 5) And, in general, he stops posting photos on some shitty website, but prints them out, hangs them on the wall or puts them on a shelf in beautiful frames, because it warms his heart; 5) The fact that the site itself is eventually visited once every few days, because the company of living people, real ones, is much more pleasant; 6) The fact that a person takes off his sneakers, ribbons, badges, piercings (there are a maximum of two left, and those that fit harmoniously into the overall picture) and puts on clothes that he would never have put on before; 7) The fact that if a person does not love himself, he begins to love himself and live for himself;
Task No. 1.
Reveal the traits of a young man who, in your opinion, is a real man.
Task No. 2
. Reveal the characteristics of a girl who, in your opinion, is charming and attractive.
Task No. 3
. Choose words that characterize modern youth.
Task No. 4.
Why is the student body characterized by “herd” behavior? Give an example of such behavior from the life of your class. Why did you do what everyone else did? Did you share the leader’s point of view at that moment?
Task No. 5
. Do you agree with the point of view of the Russian writer N.G. Chernyshevsky: “...Every individual person is a debtor to society for his mental development”?
Task No. 6.
Determine your attitude to the statements: “An arrogant and stubborn person does everything his own way, does not listen to anyone’s advice and soon becomes a victim of his own delusions” (Aesop); “Behavior is a mirror in which everyone shows his own face” (Goethe).
Signs of a mature personality.
We can only consider a truly mature person to be a person who has gone through the path of moral improvement and, by developing his character, was able to achieve a balance between will, reason and feelings.
What are the ethical features that express his attitude towards other people:
- Filial piety is respect, love and devotion to parents.
- Loyalty - reliable, faithful, devoted to friends, family, country.
- Respect – respects other people, their rights, opinions, respects property.
- Tolerance - is attentive to the opinions of other people, has no prejudices or prejudices.
- Democratic – ready to perceive other people as equals.
- Collaborative – works together with others to achieve common goals.
- Sympathy - experiences suffering and pain from the suffering and misfortunes of other people, is ready to help others, can deeply empathize.
- The ability to forgive - ready to forget grievances, does not seek to punish or take revenge for the harm caused.
- Kindness – generous, sensitive, helpful.
- Willingness to help – always ready to provide assistance to anyone who needs it.
Along with this, a spiritually mature person has traits that express his attitude towards himself:
- Self-esteem – believes in one’s own worth and abilities, and is confident in oneself.
- Responsibility – responsible for one’s own actions.
- Honesty – truthful, sincere, free from deception and lies.
- Self-control – controls your thoughts, desires, feelings and actions.
- Mental and physical health – has a sound, reasonable attitude towards life, has and maintains optimal physical condition.
CONCLUSION
In general, the fact that you can support yourself is not proof of independence and maturity for parents. If their opinion is important to you, but not paramount, if you respect their position, but this does not prevent you from respecting your own first, well, I can congratulate you. By doing this, without even entering into a conflict, you have almost explained to your parents that you have grown up.
Every generation tends to grumble that young people today have gone “wrong”, dress and behave “wrong”, and that in general “it was better before.” However, modern youth do have one very serious flaw—infancy, or reluctance to grow up. This is recognized not only by parents, teachers and psychologists.
The signs of the “illness” - infantilism - are well known to everyone - immaturity, lack of independence, unwillingness to work and take responsibility. Plus, naivety, carelessness, superficial interests and changeable moods - in a word, everything that is characteristic of small children. "
